Tag Archives: mom

Sneaky Spaces

19 Apr

Be Prepared for Anything

17 Apr

Trash Happens

16 Apr

Materials for April 16-20: Car Organization

14 Apr

Does your car feel like this?

Do you want it to feel like this?

Get it organized this week with us. Here are the materials you’ll need this week.

Monday

  • Empty bathroom or kitchen wipes container
  • Several plastic grocery sacks

Tuesday

  • Plastic pencil box
  • Small jewelry bags
  • Small stapler/staples
  • Pen and mechanical pencil
  • Paper clips
  • Blank note cards
  • A few stamps
  • Scotch tape
  • Small scissors

Wednesday

(Select age appropriate toys for your kids)

  • Hanging travel cosmetic bag
  • Small toys
  • Crayons
  • Plastic travel soap box
  • Small puzzle
  • Playing cards
  • Small note pad
  • Stickers
  • Small simple games
  • Colored ball point pens or pencils

Thursday

  • Large garbage bag
  • Rain poncho
  • Small umbrella
  • Jumper cables
  • Snack foods
  • Bottles of water

Friday

  • Travel-size deodorant
  • Feminine hygiene products
  • Lipstick and or lip balm
  • Travel band aids
  • Travel
  • Small cosmetic bag
  • Travel-size headache medicine

Moms Need Friends Too

3 Feb

Today we are so excited to have our new friend, Christine, at truebluematch.com as a guest blogger today. This is great advice for dads, too.

Making and keeping good friends requires some attention and time.  With all the wild demands of parenthood it is no wonder that busy moms often put friendships on the back burner.  However, friendships are key to happy and effective parenting and need to be made a priority.  Luckily, friendships give back so many wonderful benefits that the TLC devoted to them is time and energy well spent.

Moms often think that taking time to spend with a friend is selfish and that it takes away from their child.  Quite the opposite is true!  After enjoying a walk, a dinner or even a quick phone call with a friend there is a biological change that actually calms you and prepares you to take on the next parenting task with reduced stress.  Oxytocin, a natural calming, stress-reducing hormone is released when women spend time together.  Researchers call this natural tendency to want to spend time with other women “Tend and Befriend.”  We are all hard-wired for this need and our bodies respond so positively when we take time to enjoy with friends.

Friendship has been shown to protect against major depression and anxiety for women.  Social and emotional support is linked in many studies to lowered heart rates, lower blood pressure and decreased stress hormones.  It has also been shown to increase longevity through all of these health benefits.

Moms are wise to prioritize their health needs.  Just as you would be sure to buckle your seat belt, keep a healthy diet and exercise adding, “Take time to spend with a friend” is just as important.  The research has proven it but you don’t need to read the studies, instead take that time to do your own experiment.  Call up a friend and schedule some time to do something together.  Then see how you feel when you return home to your family.  You’ll see that everyone will benefit from you taking the time to refuel with a friend.

The Author, Christine Cook is the founder of truebluematch.com, a friendship matching website for parents of young children.  It matches moms with moms and dads with other dads for face to face friendship with others in their area.  She is certain that the true blue friends in her own life have been a key element in enjoying the past 16 years of happy, healthy parenting.

One-to-One Time

14 Nov

Today is Universal Children’s Day. We’d like to thank our guest blogger, Dr. Keith Kanner, for reminding us how important it is to spend time with our children.

You’ve heard the old saying “quality time” versus “quantity time” haven’t you? Well, when it comes to spending time with your kids, this old adage speaks loud and clear.  Most invested parents do their best to spend time with their kids and hope that those times together will be cherished moments in the minds of their child, but how a parent spends time with a child is what it’s all about.  One characteristic of all children is that they crave the attention of their parents.  It is something I call “love fuel”.  It assures them they are important, valued, loved, respected, and liked by you.  Pretty important stuff for a kid especially if they’re young.  In fact, development teaches us that the kids who “get enough love and attention “ in the early years – the first 3 to be most specific – the better chances they have to stay mentally healthy. Such “critical” periods are from years 0-3 and then again 12 – 14.  I have always viewed the teenagers as large toddlers. Just take off the first number of a teenager and this mirrors how they act sometimes. During these time periods, the parental attention need factor is at an all time high, but between these times, the attention from the parent remains needed for kids to develop healthfully. And, once they get their “fill”, they calm down.

Once kids feel liked by their parents, they like themselves and assume that others will like them also.  This gives children the push towards socialization.  But, it still gets back to how parents celebrate their child’s personality which is necessary as children change throughout the years.
Family-time is also essential but is separate from the one to one.  I always suggest a combination of both for every child savors that moment alone with either mom or dad.  Many parents get nervous that it make take up too much time to do both, but the perception of time for a child is different than that of an adult.  For example, 15 minutes for a 5 year old feels like 2 hours for a 10 year-old.  Once again, it’s not the quantity, it’s the quality.  That 15 minutes for the 5 year old makes their day.
Finding things to do alone with your child is also not that complicated.  Ask them what they want to do with you for that slice of time.  If the request is too much, then ask them to pick something else.  If they can’t come up with something, be creative yourself.  You know your child.  Pick something fun.
If you have multiple children, then the other factor is keeping your other kids busy doing something else when you are alone-timing with another.  Take turns with your partner or consider arranging some sort of play time with one of their friends. Or, just tell your other kids that you are taking turns and their turn will be delivered shortly.  As long as it’s fair, most kids will tolerate some frustration as long as it’s not too long.
Family time sets the stage for future family relationships, but nothing replaces the one to one time a parent shares with their child.  These are the moments that kids remember more than any others.
Dr. Keith Kanner
Anchor/Host Your Family Matters
www.kanner.tv

Are You Missing Someone?

10 Nov

How do you answer this question?

Who are you?

Was mom, wife, employee, laundress, maid, doctor, or master planner one of the first things that came to mind? What would you have said to this question before you had children? It’s time to find out who you’ve become.

My first answers would be mom and wife. I am proud to be mom and proud of the job that I have done raising my kids. I am also proud to be a wife and partner in my marriage. But for a while there, I, like most moms, forgot that there is more to me and didn’t take the time to explore and grow the things I delight in. Getting started only seems more difficult than it really is.

  • Start by eating and sleeping well. The laundry can wait.
  • Take a walk or exercise once a day.
  • Find time to relax. You can start with small amounts of time or hire a baby sitter. The dishes can wait.
  • Accept compliments. Just say thank you instead of putting down or minimizing what you do well.
  • Take a class that interests you. Check your library, recreation center or junior college for classes. Your spouse can get the kids to bed.
  • Get a little job that interests you, even if it only covers the babysitter costs. Adult interaction is good for moms.

Finding who you’ve become doesn’t happen over night and it isn’t easy. Ask a friend to help you along your journey and support you in your new discovery. Define yourself.

Recommended Reading:

What I Know Now: Letters to My Younger Self by Ellyn Spragins

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