What’s your Fruit Scale This Summer?

13 Jun

Is your patience already running out with your kids home for the summer? Our friend, Christine Cook, from truebluematch.com, shared this great idea on how to tell your kids that your patience is running out.

The Fruit Scale–Where are YOU at?

One of my all-time favorite parenting books is How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk.  It is full of great tips and helpful strategies to create and improve communication between parent and child.
One tip I took and morphed into my own years ago was creating a mood/energy scale.  This is a great tool to help your child visualize your mood/energy level.  The scale we used in our house for years was known as The Fruit Scale.  A typical conversation went something like this:
“OK boys, it has been a long day and my energy level is about at an orange.  We have showers, teeth and bedtime still to go.  Let’s see what we can do so that my energy level stays the same or gets bigger by the time we read stories tonight.”
Now THEY could see how their actions (or lack of) impacted my energy level.  If things were going well I would say, “Guys, this is great.  You got into your PJs right when I asked you to.  That just made my energy level go up to a grapefruit!”  Or, if they were not being helpful I’d say, “This is the third time I have asked you to start brushing your teeth.  That’s too bad because now my energy level is more of a kiwi!”
When it was time to read stories I used the energy I had to read.  If it was a large cantaloupe we’d read a few books.  My reading would be enthusiastic and upbeat, sometimes with accents and actions!  On the flip side,  if my energy level was more of a clementine I would read less and it would be much more subdued.  Raisin energy had me reading very little in a very dull, unenthusiastic tone.
The Fruit Scale (*read below about different scales) proved to be a very, very helpful tool.  It helped make the unknown (Mom’s energy level) very concrete.  Knowing that they could raise my energy from a grape to a watermelon by being helpful, kind and by following directions gave them some power.  It also turned it into a game which they loved.
Give it a try and let me know how it goes by clicking on “Contact Us” at truebluematch.com
Wishing you many WATERMELON days,
Christine Cook
Founder truebluematch.com

 

*Make it your own!

Try making your mood/energy scale fit your child’s interests.  Animal lovers might enjoy an animal scale where your mood/energy could go from a mouse to an elephant!  One child who loved memorizing the states responded well when his mom said, “My energy is Rhode Island!  What can we do to make it Texas again?”

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